Pregnancy for Fathers : Week 31 September 11, 2006Posted by Rambling Man in Fatherhood.
31 weeks - bloody hell … as one of my mates said over the weekend … sure that’ll be no time “running in” ! No time is right. No time to do anything and we have so much left to do.
Nursery preparations are in full swing this week. I’ve been delegated a lengthy but necessary to-do list by my lovely wife and I’m happy she’s the kind of woman who will actually tell me to do things about the house and not get crazy mad because I didn’t think of them myself. Guys and being domesticated and all that … she did, however, get me this book [ Household Management for Men ] which apart from being really, really practical, explains all the stuff we need to know in a way that is both entertaining and non-condescending.
This weekend we bought our first baby items, with the thought and hope that we weren’t about to jinx the whole thing lurking somewhere in the back of our minds. Our new travel system rocks ! and we don’t even have anyone to put in it yet. Its one of those all-in-one car seats, carry cot and buggy things – I look forward to not being able to fold it down and put it in the car at the most inopportune time. We also got a changing table and a cuddly toy. The other baby in the house, i.e. the dog, took an immediate liking to said cuddly toy so we couldn’t take it from her !
Baby belly-wise things are plodding along nicely. My better half had her fortnightly doctor’s appointment this past Friday and all was well as far as they could tell. In these appointments they follow a set line of enquiry as to what they test for and look for each time. Each symptom or lack of it is then used to diagnose any potential issues. They test your pee for anti-bodies and other things that could indicate a problem. The baby’s dimensions are measured in so far as measuring a tummy can indicate. The heartbeat is also listened to and it’s pretty cool of you’re an expectant father like me, just standing there feeling pretty useless. It goes much faster than the woman’s heartbeat and is a very reassuring sound when the doctor locates it and plays it back on his Doppler device. Stuff like blood pressure and perhaps blood tests are also taken at visits like this.
Herself is starting to get more regular aches and pains in the places where one would expect the baby is putting pressure. It’s funny when you read through the guidebooks together and kind of tick off to yourself which symptoms you have and which you don’t. They all say it’s not the best idea to compare pregnancies with your friends or relatives as all babies develop differently so just because your partner didn’t feel something or doesn’t have this that and the other, doesn’t mean something is wrong at all. The movements are still banging away quite frequently but because the baby is growing they feel more like twists and turns and swishes rather than actual kicks.
Not long to go now … for the meantime, all I can practically do is give my missus the help she needs (armed with new book) and paint the nursery. Bring it on !